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Breakups are hard, sometimes, they are hard to accept. They are hard to get over and recover from. A fresh breakup is like a fresh deep cut, it hurts like hell, but with time and care, the cut will eventually heal and we recover from it. If you are going through a breakup and looking for ways to deal with it, this is for you.

Take Space

It may sound somehow selfish but, having space between you and your ex is ideal, even if you had a peaceful breakup. Avoiding your ex loved one is a good idea. Take this time and space for yourself, learn more about yourself, reconnect with your self, try things you put aside; old hobbies, reconnect with old friends, work on yourself. DON’T STALK THEIR SOCIAL MEDIA. Avoid them at all costs.

Avoid Drugs And Alcohol

Even if it may sound like a good way to cope with the pain, doing drugs or alcohol after a breakup will only harm you more than do you good.

Keep Busy

Try to focus on work, find new hobbies, don’t let yourself have the luxury of time to think about your relationship. Do everything you can to keep yourself busy, it will be a blessing in the long run.

Be Socially Active

The grief of a breakup may be so strong that you end up being alone. Group support and individual support with friends and family is important. Try not to isolate yourself during this delicate time.

Those closest to you can help you vent but also show you that you’re loved and supported — always.

Focusing on your social relationships now can also help strengthen your romantic relationship skills in the future. Experts believe that staying social is linked to decreased depression and a longer life.

Understand Your Situation

Whether your breakup is one-sided or mutual, ending a relationship is never an easy process.

During moments of high stress or sadness, it’s important to keep in mind that this stage of your life will eventually come to pass. Also remember that most people go through a breakup at least once in their lifetime, so you’re in good company if you want to reach out to friends and family for emotional support.

If you’re ever at a point where coping with a breakup is becoming so difficult that your mental health is suffering, it may be time to see a therapist if you haven’t already done so. Above all else, be kind to yourself and treat your breakup as the process that it is. It is totally normal to reach out for a little extra help and support, so working with a therapist will make your journey a lot easier.

Let Yourself Feel It

The last and most important thing in our list is letting yourself feel the pain. Just know that everything you feel is totally normal and temporary, but most of all it is necessary.

Susan Birne-Stone, Ph.D., a licensed clinical social worker in Brooklyn, suggests setting a timer and giving yourself 10-20 minutes to feel whatever you are feeling without judgment. Write out any thoughts about the breakup in a letter that you will never give your ex (or just speak your thoughts out loud). When that timer goes off, ask yourself: “What do I need now? Do I need to speak with someone that loves me? Do I need to do something physical? Do I need to take a shower, eat, self-pleasure, watch a movie? What will be nurturing in this very moment that will also feel good after?” You can repeat this as needed! Just know when to stop living in the past and when the present starts.